As a relationship coach, I’ve seen many clients who are in relationships with partners who use them to boost their own ego. It’s not always easy to recognize the signs, but there are certain behaviors that can indicate that your partner is more focused on themselves than on the relationship. In this article, I’ll be sharing with you 29 Signs to watch out for in your partner that could indicate they’re using you for their ego.
What is stroking a man’s ego?
Stroking a man’s ego can be defined as providing him with compliments or praise in order to increase his self-esteem or make him feel good about himself. It can also be seen as a way of flirting with or manipulating someone.
Signs He’s Using You For His Ego
Sign#1: Your partner always needs to be right
If your partner always needs to be right, even when they’re clearly wrong, it could be a sign that their ego is getting in the way. They may feel like admitting they’re wrong would be a blow to their self-esteem, so they’ll do whatever it takes to prove themselves right.
Sign#2: Your partner never apologizes
Similarly, if your partner never apologizes, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like apologizing would be an admission of fault, which would damage their self-esteem.
Sign#3: Your partner always talks about themselves
If your partner is always talking about themselves and never seems interested in what you have to say, it could be a sign that they’re more focused on their own ego than on the relationship.
Sign#4: Your partner doesn’t listen to you
Similarly, if your partner never seems to listen to you when you talk, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in what you have to say.
Sign#5: Your partner is always seeking attention
If your partner is always seeking attention from others, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need constant validation and affirmation from others in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#6: Your partner never acknowledges your achievements
If your partner never acknowledges your achievements or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, it could be a sign that they’re more focused on themselves than on the relationship.
Sign#7: Your partner always needs to be the center of attention
Similarly, if your partner always needs to be the center of attention, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be the most important person in the room in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#8: Your partner is always comparing themselves to others
If your partner is always comparing themselves to others and trying to outdo them, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be better than everyone else in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#9: Your partner is always seeking validation
If your partner is always seeking validation from others, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need constant affirmation from others in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#10: Your partner never asks about your day
If your partner never asks about your day or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, it could be a sign that they’re more focused on themselves than on the relationship.
Sign#11: Your partner only talks about their own interests
If your partner only talks about their own interests and never seems interested in what you’re interested in, it could be a sign that they’re more focused on themselves than on the relationship.
Sign#12: Your partner doesn’t care about your feelings
If your partner doesn’t seem to care about your feelings or is dismissive of them, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in your relationship.
Sign#13: Your partner is always trying to prove themselves
If your partner is always trying to prove themselves, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to constantly prove their worth to others in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#14: Your partner never takes responsibility for their actions
If your partner never takes responsibility for their actions and always blames others, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like admitting fault would damage their self-esteem.
Sign#15: Your partner always needs to be in control
If your partner always needs to be in control of everything, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be in charge in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#16: Your partner is never satisfied
If your partner is never satisfied with what they have and always wants more, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to have more in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#17: Your partner always needs to be praised
If your partner always needs to be praised and validated, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need constant affirmation in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#18: Your partner never supports you
If your partner never supports you or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, it could be a sign that they’re more focused on themselves than on the relationship.
Sign#19: Your partner always puts themselves first
If your partner always puts themselves first, even when it’s not necessary, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like their needs are more important than yours.
Sign#20: Your partner never compromises
If your partner never seems willing to compromise or meet you in the middle, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in the relationship.
Sign#21: Your partner always needs to win
If your partner always needs to win, even in situations where winning isn’t necessary, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be the best at everything in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#22: Your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries
If your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries or seems dismissive of them, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in your relationship.
Sign#23: Your partner is always jealous
If your partner is always jealous, even when there’s no reason to be, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be the only one in your life in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#24: Your partner never admits their flaws
If your partner never admits their flaws or seems unwilling to work on them, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like admitting fault would damage their self-esteem.
Sign#25: Your partner always needs to be the hero
If your partner always needs to be the hero and save the day, even when it’s not necessary, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be the most important person in the situation in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#26: Your partner disregards your needs
If your partner disregards your needs or seems uninterested in what you want, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in the relationship.
Sign#27: Your partner always needs to be the smartest person in the room
If your partner always needs to be the smartest person in the room and dismisses others’ opinions, it could be a sign that their ego is too big. They may feel like they need to be the most knowledgeable person in order to feel good about themselves.
Sign#28: Your partner doesn’t take your advice
If your partner doesn’t take your advice or seems dismissive of it, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in the relationship.
Sign#29: Your partner only cares about themselves
If your partner only seems to care about themselves and their own needs, it could be a sign that they’re more interested in themselves than in the relationship.
Conclusion
If you’ve noticed any of these red flags in your partner, it may be time to have a conversation with them about their behavior. A healthy relationship requires both partners to have a sense of self-esteem, but it also requires both partners to put the relationship first. If your partner is more focused on themselves than on the relationship, it could be a sign that they’re using you for their ego. Don’t be afraid to speak up and set boundaries to protect yourself and your relationship.
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Sharon Adisa is a content writer with expertise in relationship and life philosophy. She is knowledgeable in various areas of human relationships, including family dynamics, romantic relationships, friendships, and workplace relationships.